Tuesday, February 19, 2013

SAD GOODBYES....NEW BEGINNINGS...

              As much as I have put it off....I feel in my heart of hearts this post is the right thing to do....I am not going to get into anything personal..and please believe me when I say this is not a pity post. After 25 years of marriage John and I are going our separate ways...I have cried all the tears I can cry..I have been through all the emotions..from anger..to denial..grief and more. We will putting our house on the market in the next week or two...and I will then find a two bedroom apt. to call home...I WILL make it my home..I WILL make it shine...I WILL make a new life. We are blessed with two of the most caring,loving, responsible ,kind children on earth..and I will continue to draw on their strength.....this is the beginning of a new chapter in all our lives....my heart will bleed when for the last time I close the door of my little house on Blythe street but I will go on to make a new life...I only wish things could have turned out differently. I will not be blogging again until I am settled in my new HOME...at which time I will be back..blogging has gotten me through some pretty rough days and it is something I really enjoy..I value the friendships I have made more than I can tell you. So if you will bare with me through this time of many changes.....we will meet again soon....of that I am sure! Till then..please take good care of yourself...love with all you have...give whatever you can..and cherish each moment. See you sometime this summer......love to all of you! Chrissy

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45 comments:

  1. primjillieFebruary 17, 2013 at 9:13 AM

    I'm so sorry to hear this. I went through the same thing a couple of years ago. It's so hard, but you'll get through it. I never thought I would, but it's finally getting easier. Give yourself time to grieve. I'm in a two bedroom apartment and while I miss my house desperately, I'm doing okay. Good luck to you.

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  2. KateFebruary 17, 2013 at 9:15 AM

    Dear Chrissy
    My heart aches for this time in your life. I will be praying as you journey into the new home, the new life and find healing to your beautiful heart. You are loved and cared for so very much. Sending you much love always Kate

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  3. Marty@A Stroll Thru LifeFebruary 17, 2013 at 9:18 AM

    My prayers go with you. Hugs, Marty

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  4. Sunflowers With SmilesFebruary 17, 2013 at 9:22 AM

    My thoughts are with you. It will all work out. Take care!

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  5. KellyFebruary 17, 2013 at 9:44 AM

    I hate to hear this! I can't imagine what a difficult time this is for you. I hope that you will find happiness again and a new and better life waiting for you.

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  6. AnonymousFebruary 17, 2013 at 9:52 AM

    Chrissy,

    You know I am always with you...wherever you are, wherever your home is, whatever you are going through. I'm here if you want to talk some more. It is a new beginning and I hope soon you are able to look at it with a fresh energy. xoxo
    Sarah

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  7. Fågel BlåFebruary 17, 2013 at 10:16 AM

    Ohhh Chrissy so sorry for you, i Hope your live be happy again,
    and I think about you!
    Hugs Kathrine

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  8. NanaDianaFebruary 17, 2013 at 10:16 AM

    Chrissy- It is sad when life turns out differently than expected. Having been in your shoes I can tell you that what doesn't kill you does make you stronger. You can do this! I will loo forward to your return. Blessings and prayers- Diana

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  9. Lynne (lynnesgiftsfromtheheart)February 17, 2013 at 10:38 AM

    Oh sweetie, I'm so sorry. I wish I could be there for you to lean on. Closing chapters and opening new ones are always hard. I admire you for sharing your heart with us. We'll be here waiting anxiously for your return. In the meantime, there is always email and we can lean on each other. A friend in need is a friend in deed. love ya girl.. hugs ~lynne ~

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  10. Sissie's Shabby CottageFebruary 17, 2013 at 10:49 AM

    Dear Chrissy,
    I wish you the best as you make this new journey in life.

    hugs
    Sissie

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  11. Restoration HouseFebruary 17, 2013 at 12:19 PM

    Chrissy
    I'm so sorry that you are going through this. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. I'll be praying for strength, courage and love for you, lots of love...
    Kim

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  12. chateau chicFebruary 17, 2013 at 12:27 PM

    Oh Chrissy, My heart breaks for you! I pray you are able to settle into a new place that will quickly feel like home and find healing for your heart and soul.
    Mary Alice

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  13. AnneFebruary 17, 2013 at 12:30 PM

    Chrissy I am sorry to hear this.Please know that I will be thinking of you all and praying.I will be here when you get back.I know in my heart things will get better as changes begin.
    xx
    Anne

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  14. Blondie's JournalFebruary 17, 2013 at 12:30 PM

    I feel so sad. I do wish you well on your new journey and pray that you find comfort in your family and friends.

    Sending you a big hug.

    XO,
    Jane

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  15. Sweet Old VintageFebruary 17, 2013 at 12:31 PM

    Unfortunately this does happen ... I also went through this after 27 years... You will survive and actually sometimes it turns out much better but it does take time and please allow yourself this .... I will be looking forward to seeing you and your lovely posts after you take the time you need.. Thinking of you through this very emotional time....

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  16. The Blue FarmhouseFebruary 17, 2013 at 1:02 PM

    I will be waiting for you sometime in the summer...in the meantime I am saying a prayer right now. May God bless you is my prayer.

    Rita

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  17. Jacqueline~Cabin and CottageFebruary 17, 2013 at 1:20 PM

    Big hugs and hopes for all the best. I'll be keeping watch for you.

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  18. LaraFebruary 17, 2013 at 1:41 PM

    Hugs to you! You have a strong, positive spirit. Will keep you in my thoughts.

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  19. Francine GardnerFebruary 17, 2013 at 1:46 PM

    I have been married 30 years and can only imagine what you have been through. My closest friend went through a very nasty divorce after 30 plus years of marriage. Can I tell you that 3 years later, she bought a 2 bedroom condo by the beach, looks radiant and happier than I have ever known her.
    Wish you strength, courage to go through the changes ahead and cannot wait to hear from you again this summer.

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  20. AnonymousFebruary 17, 2013 at 3:29 PM

    Oh dearest Chrissy,
    I am so sorry for the pain and hurt that you are going through right now!! I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers!!
    Take care dear friend and know that there are many friends here for you, even if far away, for you to lean on!
    Lot's of love!!!
    Melinda

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  21. Sandi~A Cottage MuseFebruary 17, 2013 at 4:20 PM

    Sending you a hug across the miles along with strength to help you along this journey. Hoping a new door opens for you soon.
    Take care
    xo

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  22. JuneFebruary 17, 2013 at 6:06 PM

    I will be here cheering you on and praying that the perfect place comes along for you to make your new life in Chrissy. Wishing you all the best my sweet friend!
    much love...

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  23. Sherry @ No Minimalist HereFebruary 17, 2013 at 6:16 PM

    Chrissy, I am so sorry you are going through a difficult time. I know you will find happiness in time. Hugs, Sherry

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  24. Garden Antqs VintageFebruary 17, 2013 at 6:17 PM

    Sorry to read this, but I wish you well. I'll be here when you get back. Blessings to you.

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  25. JulieFebruary 17, 2013 at 6:47 PM

    Dear Chrissy, I am so sorry to hear of your separation. It will be hard for you I know but I pray that things work out for you, that you find joy in your new life and your new home. I will watch for the return of your blog. J

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  26. helen tilstonFebruary 17, 2013 at 8:45 PM

    Sending you prayers, good wishes and happiness in all your do.
    Helen xx

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  27. Pura VidaFebruary 18, 2013 at 3:03 AM

    Chrissy my heart breaks. Iam 17 years down the road from a devastating divorce. Time is your friend sweet sister.

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  28. TriciaFebruary 18, 2013 at 7:55 AM

    Oh Chrissy, my heart goes out to you. My sister is currently going through a divorce and I know how hard and stressful that situation can be. I pray that everything goes well for you and that there are lots of brighter days ahead. xo

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  29. SandiFebruary 18, 2013 at 8:01 AM

    Oh Chrissy...my heart aches for you. So many I know are going through hard marriage problems right now. Life is just plain messy at times, but God gives us strength for each day. I told someone else...don't look far into the future and fill it with "what if this...what if that"...just take it one day at a time and you will be okay. {I can say this, but I have never been through it so really don't have a clue} Praying for you and anxiously waiting to see your beautiful posts this summer...

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  30. by meisjeFebruary 18, 2013 at 11:29 AM

    Oh, es tut mir so unendlich leid! Ich wünsche dir eine grosse Portion Kraft und Stärke, für die Zeit die nun für dich kommt!
    Nimm meine lieben gedanken und die allerbesten Wünsche mit auf diesen Weg; Meisje

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  31. KariFebruary 18, 2013 at 12:27 PM

    Hi Chrissy,
    You are in my thoughts during this difficult time. I wish I could reach out and give you a hug. I have loved you since the Rate my space days on hgtv.com and was so happy to find your blog. You have always been so supportive of me and my blog and for that I am so grateful. You are a special, sweet, kind hearted person with incredible talent. I know that one day you will find healing and once again find happiness in your life. I'm sending you lots of love today and always.
    xoxo
    Kari

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  32. Shanon at Vintage Sparkle ChicFebruary 18, 2013 at 4:45 PM

    Chrissy, I am so sorry you are about to have such a change in your life. Hopefully you are on the road to new adventures, more than you can imagine. Prayers for your new beginning and I will be awaiting your next post and seeing your new space.

    ~Shanon

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  33. Sea WitchFebruary 19, 2013 at 6:52 PM

    Oh Sweetie, I'm so sorry that your heart is hurting. I was married for 29 years when it dissolved. You cry, you get pissed, you cry and you go on. There are so many hearts that have your heart and we are sending you love and support and strength. Hope you settle in quickly as you will be missed. Love and luck to you. Sea witch

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  34. becFebruary 20, 2013 at 12:38 AM

    I always enjoy reading your blog and I will look out for your return in the summer when you are settled. take great care of yourself and know that what you do and who you are is admired by many even complete strangers like me down here in qld australia.
    Much love and courage.
    Bec x

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  35. Susan McShannon-MonteithFebruary 20, 2013 at 6:37 AM

    In the words of Helen Reddy, 'I am woman here me roar...'
    Though there is much pain and heartache at this time in your life it is as you say a new beginning.
    With a cozy little place to look forward to that you may decorate as you please there is always much to be grateful for.
    Best of luck in your new adventure...
    Susan

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  36. UnknownFebruary 20, 2013 at 6:46 AM

    Oh Crissy...please know that I am praying for you to have strength and peace during this time. Lean on Him and your family/friends right now. Sending hugs my friend. Lots of love

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  37. SueFebruary 20, 2013 at 9:52 AM

    I am so sorry. I've been married 38 years and I always tell people that ask how we lasted that there were years we didn't like each other very much. Not days, sometimes we had a bad year. We are all just a heartbeat away from that "starting over" place and I am sure that this decision has to be so hard for you all.

    I also have no doubt that whatever place you land...you will turn it into a beautiful sanctuary...a warm, peaceful home. It is who you are and how you create. Starting fresh, even when the reasons are difficult, can turn out to have some positive sides as well. I hope that you find that to be the case, once you find your way.

    Sending hugs, prayers and good thoughts. Please let me know when you are back to blogging or send a message if you need a safe place to vent. S.

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  38. EviFebruary 25, 2013 at 12:57 PM

    you will get through this, and will come out a happier person.
    When something can no longer be fixed, it is time to let go.
    I wish you strength to get to a better place.
    Wherever you go,
    you will make a wonderful home for yourself.
    Best wishes,
    Evi

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  39. robinsonMarch 1, 2013 at 2:17 PM

    I will be praying for you and your children, God Bless you. I wish you a spirit of peace. I went thru this after 22 years of marriage. The best is yet to come. Trust and know that God will Bless you and your children.

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  40. UnknownMarch 3, 2013 at 6:10 PM

    very beautiful :)

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  41. UnknownMarch 6, 2013 at 10:51 AM

    Been there, done that... it is a roller coaster at times. Sorry you are having to go through this. Life can be very good on the other side! Take time to take care of yourself and your life! Good thoughts and prayers sent your way. I will be looking forward to your return when you are ready.

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  42. Simple Living Los AngelesMarch 10, 2013 at 9:23 AM

    Am going through this myself. your post touched me. here's to a new, beautiful life!

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  44. FRENCH LAUNDRYApril 2, 2013 at 8:50 PM

    Oh sweetie, I have been out of the loop, but I am so sorry. I will definitely keep you and John in my thoughts and prayers.

    Hugs,
    Judy

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  45. bjJuly 20, 2013 at 5:56 AM

    Sea...I just found this post.
    I have such a lump in my throat that I can barely breath.
    I am so saddened to read this...but I am uplifted as I read your upbeat attitude about the HUGE change in your life.
    Your new apartment looks "like home" with all your treasures around.
    I am wishing you the very best of luck.....I so hate it when a marriage breaks up but sometimes it was just not meant to be.
    love, prayers, hugs and kisses, bj

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